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hard lesson I think that the real paradigm you’re committed to helping somebody
for love is a gardener and flowers; so the
relationship that a gardener has with a
flower is the gardener wants the flower
to be what the flower is designed to be,
not what the gardener wants the flower
to be you want the flower to bloom and
to blossom and to become what it wants
to be, you want it to become what God
designed it to be, you’re not demanding
that it become what you need it to be… love
is spelled LUV- Listen, Understand and
Validate.
What you hear as true listening is a
magnificent superpower; a really deep
listening and we can’t listen if we got
something that we want to say; listening
is a connective energy learning how to
quiet your own mind and quiet your own
thoughts and quiet your own needs and
desires and listen to what the other person
is saying. There is nothing that feels better
to a human being than to feel understood;
the mission is to thoroughly and
completely understand what the person is
saying; and what has been helpful for me
is to repeat back what the person has said
to you and then the V is validate the things
that you recognize as true in what they
say validate them as true; …. love is help
everybody is having a hard time so love is
really devotion to their struggle; it’s when
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with their life; helping them to suffer less;
you know, helping them to manage their
minds and their emotions; I think love is a
deep desire for our loved ones growth and
they’re blossoming and they’re all around
well-being.
When you love somebody, you want
them to feel good; you want them to be
happy and you want to see them succeed in
life; and love really demands an in-depth
understanding of their hopes and their
dreams, and their fears, their needs, and
trauma. I think love is giving and sharing
our gifts for the purpose of nurturing,
empowering them, and helping them
create their greatest joys.”
Khalil Gibran sums this up beautifully:
“Love one another but make not a bond of
love: Let it rather be a moving sea between
the shores of your souls. Fill each other’s
cup but drink not from one cup. Give one
another of your bread but eat not from the
same loaf….. Give your hearts, but not into
each other’s keeping. For only the hand of
Life can contain your hearts. And stand
together, yet not too near together: For the
pillars of the temple stand apart, And the
oak tree and the cypress grow not in each
other’s shadow”.
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