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social or psychological factors was released and became a best seller. It
in studies of sexual desire. was based on Gray’s premise that men
Though generally, women and women have different emotional
are sexually active during requirements and that a misunderstanding
adolescence, they reach their of the differences leads to the breakdown of
peak orgasmic frequency relationships.
in their 30s, and have a constant level of Is this where you want to head to??... I don’t
sexual capacity up to the age of 55 with think so. So talk!!!
little evidence that ageing affects it in later
life. So speak to her!! Q: My husband snores, and he says I
snore. The result of this is we sleep in
Q: I’ve recently retired, and my husband different rooms? A friend of mine says
is still working. Every time he comes late, there is nothing abnormal about it. What
I feel very insecure, and feel very lonely. is your view? Please advise.
I have got myself a hobby, but I still need A: Nearly everyone snores now and then,
the companionship. but for some people it can be a chronic
A: Talk to your husband about this. What problem. There is nothing abnormal about
was the pattern of behaviour between the snoring!
two of you while both were working?? Did Snoring is the hoarse or harsh sound that
you make time for each other regardless of occurs when air flows past relaxed tissues in
a busy work schedule? Did you find time your throat, causing the tissues to vibrate as
for him even though you were working and you breathe. Muscle weakness can happen
may have been tired? due to aging, drinking alcohol, taking sleep
Stop being suspicious… this will eat you up. aids, or certain medical conditions. Being
You are important… your mental, emotional, overweight increases the likelihood of
physical, spiritual, and psychological snoring.
wellbeing. Don’t cave in because others have What positions reduce snoring? Sleep on
started behaving differently. Your Side! People are more likely to snore
Find out what is keeping your husband late when sleeping on their backs, also called the
at work. Many people enjoy meeting friends supine position. In contrast, people snore
after a hard day’s work… normal, provided less when they sleep on their sides, also
it’s not being done too often. Many forget called a lateral position.
that they have responsibilities at home. It’s Other solutions: Raising your head with
an escape route for them, a convenient way an extra pillow can help to reduce snoring.
of shedding responsibility and moving on. Smearing some Vicks VapoRub on your
Hence, communicate, find out what the issue chest at night will help open your nasal
is. See if you can participate by joining him passages too, easing your snoring. Use
after work. If there is the slightest hesitancy, earplugs… gift your spouse with a good set
if your sixth sense senses something of earplugs!
untoward, don’t make an issue… let him
know that you are always there for him. Please address your questions to
In John Gray’s book, 1992, “Men Are editor@seniorstoday.in and write Mind
from Mars, Women Are from Venus”… Matters in the subject line
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