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Mind Matters
Seniors — Your Questions
Answered
Dr Monika M Dass advises some troubled seniors, on key life issues that
they are facing
Q: How can I cope with the loss of my not demanding… then do think of starting
spouse and find meaning in life again? I up a friendship. Be wise as to whom you
am 64, a widower. Is it alright to strike a are choosing to be with; you don’t want
relationship all over again? to land yourself in a mess – emotionally,
A: Time is a great healer, they say… and it financially or in any other way.
is. Losing one’s spouse is hugely traumatic;
there is a gap, a space… no one can fill Q: My children feel that in order to my
that… not even one’s own children or own mental health I must find a life
grandchildren. Most spouses, want their companion. But I don’t want to do as
loved ones to live a fulfilled life, a joyful I really enjoy playing grandmother to
one. They want them to find meaning their children. But I see value in what
again. they say, but I just can’t get myself to
To answer your question: take your time; marry again. I am 61.
you don’t need to rush into anything. A: Your children care about you; they
Companionship is important, for all of us. want to see you happy; they feel that
If you find someone like minded, someone perhaps having a companion may fill the
you are comfortable with, someone you can loneliness gap within. They mean well!
spend quality time with, someone who is However, it is not necessary that you
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