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Similarities Bind?
Or Opposites Attract?
There is widespread evidence to similarity attraction which may lead the old
adage “opposites attract” on its path into obsolescence, writes Deepa Desa
If you are still happily co-living with your and has been lodged in our collective
partner for many decades, perhaps you’ve sentiment for countless years.
introspected on the game-changing factors
that have contributed to the success of Research indicates like-minded people
your relationship/marriage. And while thrive
it takes constant and consistent effort Opinions can vary on this debate
for any relationship to survive let alone depending on one’s personal experiences
thrive, there are some fundamental aspects and mindset. While many people are quick
that could play a big role in successful to agree that opposites attract, and may
relationships. even jump to an example in their own
A pivotal question in your intimate and life, studies have indicated otherwise.
close relationships is — are your core The research states that it’s pretty clear
values agreeably aligned or are they as that opposing views clash soon enough;
opposed as the North and South poles? validating that couples who have shared
We have long lived by the adage ‘opposites interests, temperaments, tend to date and
attract’ – the introvert will fall for the marry more, and stay married long-term.
extrovert, the good girl for the ‘goonda’. Indeed, various studies have shown
This ‘Beauty and the Beast’ belief is fuelled friends and romantic partners tend
by culture, inspired by cinema and books, to share core beliefs, traits, values
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